Okay......
I need some reassurance from all of you second (and third and fourth) time mom's out there and maybe my genius/counsellor friend M*.
Make me feel normal.
Did you experience abnormally clingy and want-mommy-all-the-time behaviour from your first before your second was born?
Yesterday in church Denay cuddled on my shoulder (which never happens unless I have blankie) for almost a full half hour before becoming completely hysterical when I tried to bring her to nursery (which is never a problem). Then when I tried to pass her to Opa to run out for a second, she got frantic and started to cry and reach for me. She never doesn't want to go to Opa.
This coupled with more hysterics before bedtime for the past two weeks, crying for mommy every time I put her in her crib and then waking up an hour or more after we put her down crying for me. We've had to bring her into our bed a couple times just to get to breathing normally again she is so upset. And she never wants Trev, just me.
Last night I had to get her lying down, cover her up, sing to her and hold her hand until she would relax and stop crying.
Now, don't get me wrong. I have no problem consoling my baby if she is upset and can't even tell you much I love having her breathing softly next to me in bed, these are some of the moments I treasure most. It's the out-of-character behaviour that's got me wondering if she understands this pregnancy more than we give her credit for. Denay is normally confident, and reasonably independant and a good go-to-sleeper and all this just isn't like her.
Anyone else been there?
As a general side note: when I was preggers with Denay, I pretty much lived off of peanut butter and banana sandwiches. This time, it's chocolate milk.
6 comments:
Maybe she is confused about what's going to happen after baby comes...she might not understand that this is an addition - not a replacement. I didn't go through this myself so can't say for sure!
Halle was ultra clingy around Deany's same age..and we went through it as well with Sebastian. So it might just be an age thing (seperation-anxiety) or she might be feeling the mood in the house change with the excitement of the new baby. Little ones are very sensitive to change...and it might just take a little more snuggle time to make her feel reassured. Hang in there...she'll get over it and back to her independent self soon. But do cherish this time with just her needing a little more of her mama!
WEIRD!!! Logan is being a nut job! Hes sort of acting out a bit and the sleep thing sounds the same as our situation. He used to march down the hallway excited to go to bed now he cries and wants to snuggle...its really frusterating because we've never had this problem with him hes always been easy. He doesnt say much he still babbles but when I ask him where the baby is he hugs and kisses my stomach and is constantly lifting up my shirt to kiss it....its become an obsession hahaha I just think its sorta strange because I really thought he had no clue. Maybe they subconciously know something is going to change so they need to act differently. Who knows! I dont think it will last long (hopefully) your not alone :)
Jacklyn
Sounds like Separation Anxiety...it can be a normal part of development, but if it goes on too long it may be a bigger issue. Try not to over-indulge it (a little is ok) and keep an eye it, it should just go away on its own. If not, then it may be a bigger issue to seek help about.
Love,
M* (did you mean me in the post? - if so, I think "genius" is a little excessive. If you didn't mean me, I apologize for my self-centered assumptions :) )
Sounds like Separation Anxiety...it can be a normal part of development, but if it goes on too long it may be a bigger issue. Try not to over-indulge it (a little is ok) and keep an eye it, it should just go away on its own. If not, then it may be a bigger issue to seek help about.
Love,
M* (did you mean me in the post? - if so, I think "genius" is a little excessive. If you didn't mean me, I apologize for my self-centered assumptions :) )
Landon totally went through that too, before Liam. Except he wanted his daddy - but still. He wanted us to cuddle him when we put him to bed, and he lost it whenever Jason walked away or out the door. I think its a totally normal stage at this age and it gets better! Enjoy the cuddles :)
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